They say it takes a person as little as seven seconds to leave an impression. Well, that’s not that long, is it? Our clothes, our posture, our body language, our facial expressions – all that is observed in just a couple of seconds, and everyone wants to know how to make a good first impression, right?
When it comes to first dates, the first impression becomes our main focus. You might be feeling a weird mixture of nervousness and excitement, which is exactly how most of us feel when we’re about to meet our date. However, there’s no need to panic. With a couple of useful tips in mind, you’ll figure this whole thing out. Here are a few rules to follow.
Be punctual to make a good first impression
It’s your first date and of course, you’re feeling nervous and excited at the same time. But arriving late because you’re putting finishing touches on your look isn’t going to help.
What’s more, tardiness can be a big turn-off, and your date might start to feel as if you aren’t respectful of their time. Be punctual, or better yet – arrive ten to fifteen minutes earlier.
This shows how much effort you’re willing to put, and that you’re aware of the importance of a first impression.
Smile and be confident
How to really make a good first impression?
The way you walk into the venue where you’re meeting your date, be it a coffee shop or a restaurant, will say a lot about you before you even speak. When people feel confident in themselves without coming across as cocky, others will notice that, and will soon pick up their vibe, setting the stage for the entire date. Therefore, mind your posture, put on a big smile, and be confident and positive.
Wear something that makes you feel confident to make a good first impression
Choose something you feel comfortable in, but also try to highlight your best features. For men, a good example of a first-date outfit would be a suit or something semi-casual. It could be a combination of smart pants and a crisp, white shirt. Casual or formal, any outfit you choose to go with can be taken to a new level with a watch. Check out some quality Japanese watches online and see which style suits you best.
As for women, you can make a good first impression with a classic date dress – make sure it’s not too short, but not too modest either. Don’t bother following the latest fashion – just stick with something flattering and don’t forget to add a statement piece (e.g. embellished heels, statement necklace, or eye-catching earrings).
Have a couple of topics in your pocket
When the time comes to meet your date face-to-face, you might get shy or find it hard to come up with something to talk about, which makes things awkward, and makes it even harder to make a good first impression. Therefore, it pays to have a couple of interesting topics in your pocket. Of course, it’s easy to say ‘Be yourself’, but it’s true. There are a lot of great conversation starters you can rely on to keep the conversation going.
Ask them about their hobbies and interests. Talk about your favorite books, movies, or TV shows. Ask them about a concert they’ve been to recently. However, don’t go overboard with the questions – you want your partner to feel relaxed, not like they’re being interviewed. Just go with the flow, and don’t give away TMI either – leave something for the next date.
Be an engaging conversationalist to make a good first impression
Other than keeping the conversation going, you also want to show that you’re engaged in a conversation. Nothing is more annoying than going on a date with a person who’s constantly checking his or her phone instead of talking to you. Don’t be that person. Put your phone away during the date so there’s nothing that can interrupt you.
Also, personalize the conversation by calling them by their name, and be sure to maintain eye-contact. Listen carefully to what they’re saying and really be there, giving them all your attention.
Dates can be daunting – there’s no denying it. However, don’t give in to anxiety and overthink everything. Instead, go with the flow, and at the risk of sounding cliché – just be yourself! If you manage to stick with these five rules we’ve listed, there’s a good chance your date will be asking about the next time they can meet you.
Knowing the importance of a first impression, you can totally make a great one, just be yourself!
Guest Contributor: Brigitte Evans
Brigitte is a Lifestyle Consultant and a writer from Australia. She is passionate about fashion, lifestyle, yoga, mindfulness, beauty and travel, with a sweet tooth for makeup and everything sparkly. When she is not drooling over the next big thing in the beauty industry, she is reading classic and mystery novels and making plans for her next trip. Her motto is: “Life is too short to be anything but happy”.